Be Secure In Who You Are
Insecure people often say yes, when in reality they’d like to say no. But people who succeed at being themselves don’t let others control them. They see themselves as God sees them; therefore they’re led by His Word instead of the fear of rejection. You can invest so much effort into trying to keep everybody happy that you end up losing yourself.
Question: Do you feel like you can’t be everything all your wantoks want you to be? Do you want to say no, but the fear of displeasing others makes you keep complying? And in the meantime the pressure is building inside you and you’re thinking, ‘I can’t do this anymore’? Don’t get angry with those who keep making more and more demands on you. You are responsible for ordering your own life. The buck stops with you! That requires a clear sense of your own worth, your calling, your direction, your goals and your priorities.
One Christian author writes: ‘For years I lived under the pressure of everybody’s expectations. I thought, “What if I let them down?” I thought they were pressuring me, when in reality it was my own fears and insecurities weighing me down. “But,” you say, “don’t you care what others think?” What others think isn’t my problem, unless I make it my problem. Pleasing God and being what He wants is my first concern. If I try to be anybody else I’ll forfeit His blessing, because God can’t bless an imitation.’
The solution is to work on becoming secure in who you are in Christ, and everything else will begin to fall into place.